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托尔斯泰曾写道：“幸福的家庭都是相似的，而不幸的家庭各有各的不幸。”  2019年5月3日在Netflix上映的短片《All in My Family》（《我的家庭》）展示了一个家庭可以同时既幸福又不幸，又各具特色。 《All in My Family》探索了一个浪子的回归到他曾想离开的家庭，试图在家庭和文化的压力下忠于自我的主题。在这纪录片中，观众跟随导演吴皓，了解他在中国的家人对代孕的反应，以及他如何走上代孕之路。 影片从他在一个热闹而传统的中国家庭中长大的经历开始，讲述了他搬到纽约并走上自己道路的过程。作为家中唯一的男性，吴皓从小被教导要事业有成、结婚生子，拥有自己的亲生孩子。他确实实现了这些目标，只是方式可能不是家人所期待的。 吴皓讲述了向保守家庭出柜以及与他美籍华裔丈夫共同成为两个孩子的父母的旅程。不幸的是，他的性取向与传统父母的观念不符，引发了彼此间的情感冲突。几年后，父母的反应表明他们仍然无法完全接受吴皓的身份。 观众见证了吴皓的中国父母对他通过卵子捐赠和代孕拥有孩子的真实反应。几年后，当他把孩子介绍给家人时，孩子和吴皓立即被接纳，但家人仍然争论如何向别人解释孩子没有母亲的情况或Eric的角色。 吴皓不确定如何向他的祖父坦白他的现况，他的祖父是唯一一位不知道他的性取向和他的孩子是代孕出生的事实。在影片中，他带着丈夫Eric一起面对祖父，但没有向祖父说明他们两个人是孩子的父亲。最终，吴皓和Eric决定不需要向祖父说明太多，只要大家看到他有一个幸福的家庭，大家都很高兴。尽管亲戚间不断争论，但家庭最终成功跨越了这些纷争。 尽管这部电影主要讲述的是中国的家庭，但吴皓的经历也许并不完全不同于其他移民家庭的经历，特别是当他们回到离开多年的家庭时会经历的文化差异。他的故事中展示了他许多的隐私，展示了他家人的中国文化，以及他们如何表达对他的爱。随着代孕逐渐普及并得到更多认可，我们感受到希望：他的父母和祖父母逐渐接受他的非传统家庭。吴皓也逐渐接受改变家人观念需要时间。 这个纪录片值得一看吗？ 对于许多移民家庭，尤其是那些崇尚男子气概的文化来说，通常有一个强烈的期望，希望儿子能够延续家族的姓氏和血脉。这种文化压力使得男性公开同性恋身份变得尤其困难。对于像吴皓这样的情况，几代人都期望他成家立业，因此要得到家人真正的接受往往非常艰难。正如电影中所呈现的那样，吴皓的家人对他与Eric的关系表现出容忍，但始终没有完全接纳。无论Eric多么尊重和体贴，家人依旧希望吴皓能娶个女孩。 在一些国家，人们对LGBTQ群体普遍缺乏理解。尤其是年长一代，很难理解为什么有人会选择LGBTQ身份。很多人坚信“男系血脉”必须延续，家族基因的延续需要“男系后代”。影片中展示了尽管吴皓的家人欢迎他的孩子和Eric进入他们的生活，但仍然希望对朋友和更远的亲属保密，这其中隐含着许多羞耻感。对于来自相似背景的同性准父母，这部影片可以帮助他们更好地了解带孩子回家时可能遇到的家庭动态。 由于影片篇幅较短，充满了幽默与情感交织的瞬间，我们推荐给所有对代孕、中国文化，或经历类似情况的观众。 《All in My Family》现可在Netflix上观看。 遗憾的是，影片未涉及代孕过程中的法律问题，或许是为了精简。希望了解相关法律流程的观众，可以联系Tsong Law Group的代孕律师以获取更多信息。

作为代孕律师，我们凭借丰富的经验知道，虽然大多数代孕过程都进行得很顺利，但是还是要为一些潜在的法律纠纷做准备。尽管罕见，但有时会出现这样的法律问题：如果代母在孩子出生时想要把孩子占为己有怎么办？或者，如果代母在怀孕后决定不继续履行合同里的条款呢？这些情况不常见，所以一旦发生就会有很麻烦的法律问题。 在本篇文章中，我们将探讨这些场景，并回答这一常见问题，帮助您全面了解妊娠代孕中可能会出现什么样的问题和结果。需要注意的是，解决方案可能因所涉地区的法律和代孕协议的具体细节而有所不同。请注意，此分析仅针对妊娠代孕，而不是需要代母用自己的卵子怀孕的传统代孕。 如果代母想把孩子占为己有怎么办？ 根据我们数百次代孕配对的经验，我们从未遇到过代母想要留下与她无基因关系的孩子。这是极其罕见的情况。但尽管不常发生，但这是所有准父母都会担心的问题。 在对代孕友好的州，代孕协议上会明确规定准父母是孩子的合法父母，而代母及其配偶放弃任何可能拥有的父母权利或亲权推定。这些协议声明，为了孩子最大利益考虑，该孩子应当由准父母抚养 在加利福尼亚州，当代孕案件涉及此类问题并提交法庭时，代母通常不会在法律诉讼中获胜。这是因为1993年加州最高法院的Johnson vs. Calvert案确立的法律先例。法院裁定，必须支持各方在代孕协议中明确的意图。 然而，如果代母想要在孩子出生时把孩子占为己有，这在法院已发布亲权判决后是无法实现的。这份法律文件通常在代母分娩前取得，指示医院将准父母视为孩子的合法父母。因此，准父母需及了解代母的怀孕情况，以确保有足够时间让律师获取亲权判决。 如果代母在判决下达后改变主意，判决将确保孩子出生时由准父母获得监护权。 如果代母决定违反合同上的安排怎么办？ 我们将讨论代母改变主意后的应对方案。 如果代母在怀孕前决定退出，结果取决于代孕协议的具体条款。这些合同通常允许任何一方在怀孕发生前终止合同。 然而，如果代母已经怀孕，大多数合同禁止在代母怀上准父母的孩子后终止协议。如果已经怀孕的代母拒绝配合准父母确认他们的亲权，有两种补救措施：(1) 准父母可宣布代母违约并停止付款；(2) 准父母可在代母不配合的情况下提起亲权诉讼。 在宣布重大违约的情况下，如果代母确实违反合同，她将有义务根据合同的规定，偿还因违约产生的费用。在像加利福尼亚州这样亲权法明确的州，准父母应能凭借合同以及展示孩子是通过胚胎移植受孕的证据，获得亲权判决。 Conclusion： 总结 总的来说，当代母决定要留下孩子或退出合同里的安排时，相关各方必须有一份经过充分起草和协商好的代孕协议。这些协议是处理意外事件的基础，提供了关于所有相关人员权利和义务的明确指南。此外，它可以作为法律指南，有助于解决争议，并确保准父母、代母、孩子和其他在内的人利益。 无论您是作为准父母考虑代孕或卵子捐赠，还是想成为代母或卵子捐赠者，一定要从咨询代孕律师开始。 作为美国收养与辅助生殖律师学院（AAAA）和加州收养与辅助生殖律师学院（ACAL）的成员，Tsong Law Group在代孕法领域拥有丰富的经验。我们屡获殊荣的律师团队在加利福尼亚州、纽约州、伊利诺伊州、华盛顿州、俄克拉荷马州和亚利桑那州都拥有执业资格。 如果您想做一个免费的ART咨询，请在这里联系我们。

考虑代孕时，准父母可以选择通过代孕机构或独立进行代孕之旅。每种选择都有其独特的优势和考虑因素。虽然最终决定应基于特定需求、偏好和情况，但一些人更看重机构提供的专业知识和支持。 在选择代孕机构时，相关各方通常会在机构服务开始时收到一份代孕代理协议。 代孕代理协议是一份具有法律约束力的文件，概述了准父母和代理机构之间关系的条款和条件。由于该协议将在接下来的一年或更长时间内规范双方的关系，因此仔细阅读代理协议至关重要，以确认其草拟得当、法律上稳妥，并与所有相关方的利益和期望一致。 在我们社交媒体上的一篇每周常见问题帖子中，我们概述了审查代理协议时需要考虑的一些事项。在本文中，我们将深入探讨其重要性，并提供对每个项目意义的更全面理解。以下是一些需要牢记的关键因素: 代理费用 准父母需要明确了解何时以及需要向代理机构支付多少费用。协议必须明确支付的阶段、金额和方式，这些在不同的代理机构之间会有所不同。由于各代理机构的条款不同，支付时间也可能需要协商，因此这一点尤其需要仔细核查。代孕机构通常在过程的不同阶段收取费用，例如匹配会面、匹配确认，或在访问代母数据库之前预先支付。重要的是，还需查看代理费用所涵盖的服务内容，以及哪些服务不包括在代理费用中。一些机构会对代母的筛选和背景调查收取费用，而另一些机构则将其包括在代理费用中。 重新匹配费用   代孕代理协议中的这一部分通常概述了由于初次匹配终止后，准父母和代母寻求新匹配时可能产生的额外费用或收费。需要特别注意的是在不收取重新匹配费用的情况下。通常情况下，如果代母在法律程序前退出或未通过诊所筛查，则不应收取重新匹配费用。一些机构不对未获得法律批准的代母重新匹配收取费用，或者代母在胚胎移植前终止合同的情况也不会收费。有些机构甚至在代母未怀孕或未分娩的情况下也不收取重新匹配费用。 然而，大多数机构会在准父母没有正当理由终止匹配时收取重新匹配费用。重新匹配可能涉及各种情况，而这些情况可能是律师了解的，而经验不足的准父母可能并不清楚。重新匹配费用的金额也可能有所不同，从较小的费用到相当于代理费用的金额不等。 合同期限   代孕代理协议的期限可能有所不同，通常在条款中有明确规定。一些机构会对延长合同期限或重新签订合同收取费用，因此仔细核查协议细节至关重要。需要考虑的是，如果代母未经过预筛查，她可能需要数月时间通过筛查。再加上法律合同的时间、诊所的日程安排以及多次移植的可能性，成功的代孕过程可能会比一年长得多。这还不包括匹配失败和重新匹配的可能性。 提供的服务   代孕代理协议中包含不同的服务。虽然协调工作通常包括提供转介、与代母保持联系并解决双方之间的任何分歧，但您还需要了解代理机构在签署合同后将提供哪些服务。准父母可能希望案件经理参加胚胎移植或分娩，如果这不包括在内，额外收费的具体金额应在协议中明确列出。

如果你正在进入代孕领域，作为准父母的首要步骤之一是找到合适的代孕机构，以确保过程顺利。代孕机构在代孕过程中扮演着重要角色。首先，他们可以帮助你找到合适的专业人士，如合适的诊所、律师、保险经纪人和心理治疗师。其次，他们会为你寻找代母，并在法律合同签署前通过提供匹配条款和达成握手协议来促进匹配过程。在法律合同签订后，机构将监督整个过程，并帮助解决代孕过程中可能出现的问题。作为首要的联系和信息来源，机构帮助你应对这一复杂而陌生的过程。借助机构的知识和经验，作为准父母的你能够在迎接孩子到来的同时维持正常的生活方式。 本文将讨论选择适合你的代孕机构的建议。 1. 警示信号 作为许多准父母的律师，我们经常被问到关于代孕机构的警示信号。一个明显的问题是缺乏公司架构或身份。当你收到一份代孕机构的协议时，机构名称会被列出，并且应明确显示为公司或有限责任公司。公司和有限责任公司在州内注册从事商业活动。如果它们没有在州务卿的公司名下注册，则必须在县内作为虚构公司名进行注册。如果两者都没有显示，那就是一个值得关注的问题。如果将来与公司发生纠纷，你需要知道与你签约的到底是谁。 另一个警示信号是，如果代孕机构不允许你选择自己的辅助生殖（ART）律师。选择自己的律师非常重要。你的律师是独立的，代表你本人，他或她不应该从代孕机构单独收取费用或以其他方式为该机构服务，因为这可能会导致利益冲突。一些机构会允许你选择自己的律师，但会在你的机构费用中包含他们自己的律师的预付款。这实际上与不给你选择权是一样的，因为这意味着你需要为外部律师再次支付费用。如果你没有律师，机构应该提供多个潜在律师的名字，你应该能够研究并确定他们的资质，或者自带有资格起草合同的律师。 第三个警示信号是如果代孕机构自己持有代孕过程中的资金。在加利福尼亚州，托管资金必须由代孕机构以外的第三方持有。其他州可能没有这种要求，但如果你与代母之间发生争议，代孕机构作为你的代理人持有托管资金可能会引发问题。也有些情况下，代孕机构没有正确地持有托管资金，随后消失或倒闭，导致多个家庭陷入困境。虽然律师可以受到纪律处分，托管公司也有可以在损失发生时提供保护的担保，但代孕机构没有这些保护措施。 2. 机构资质 在排除警示信号之后，你现在需要区分合格的代孕机构。在面试机构时，你需要了解以下几个方面：历史和经验、匹配时间、机构费用及费用结构（包括重新匹配和退款）、机构服务协议的期限以及延长时间的费用、以及参考资料。 面试之后，你需要审查机构协议。你可以请律师和你一起审查。律师可以评论他们对该机构的知识和经验。 机构应提供准父母、前代母、行业专业人士的参考资料。确保你的机构有成功代孕过程的记录也非常重要。请注意，总会有一些新的机构，虽然这些机构可能仍然值得信任，但至少这些机构应由在代孕机构工作过或经历过多次代孕过程的人来经营。 3. 规模是否重要？ 代孕机构的规模从单人运营到拥有多个地点的大型公司不等。虽然大型机构可能更具信誉并拥有更多资源，但小型机构也有其优势，例如与代母竞争的准父母较少。 你需要了解机构的招募和筛选流程。通常，最好的机构会考虑诸如你的个性、对代孕过程的期望以及所需的沟通水平等因素。 同样重要的是，机构的工作人员应具备良好的经验并与你建立融洽的关系，因为他们将负责管理你的案件，并应关注你的最佳利益。务必审查机构提供的服务；一些代孕机构在匹配后提供的服务有限，这意味着他们可能会促进代母和准父母之间的匹配，但可能会额外收费或通常不协助安排代母的预约。 4. 第三方意见 要小心那些看起来好得不像真的代孕机构。律师、医生和前准父母等第三方可以提供非常有用的关于机构的第一手资料。不要害怕要求与之前与机构合作过的人交谈。至少，机构应该提供你阅读或观看过去的准父母和代母的推荐信的机会。一个积极的标志是，机构加入了像SEEDS、ASRM、Resolve和Men Having Babies这样的专业行业组织。你可以进一步联系这些组织，查看该机构是否是活跃的成员，还是仅仅支付了会员费。 结论 最终，你应该在线研究多个代孕机构，咨询可信赖的专业人士，并面试潜在的机构，以找到最合适的选择。选择机构的最终决定只是迈向成为父母的漫长旅程的开始。 现在联系代孕律师获取更多信息。 本文仅供参考，不应在没有进一步研究或咨询律师的情况下依赖。本文不构成法律建议，也不与读者建立律师-客户关系。

如果你正在考虑与代孕妈妈签约来扩展你的家庭，你可能有很多问题。我们将尝试回答一个重要问题：我应该在代孕妈妈身上寻找什么？ 选择适合你的代孕妈妈需要经过深思熟虑和多个步骤。这并不像找到一个能够生育并愿意怀孕的女性那么简单。还有许多其他因素需要考虑。合适的代孕机构会筛选你的潜在代孕妈妈，以确保她符合所有理想的要求。如果你自己操作，这里有一些基本的考虑因素。 一个重要的考虑因素是要建立良好的沟通关系，因为你们需要定期交流。种族、外貌和身高等特点不应该成为主要考虑因素。这些身体属性不会影响代孕妈妈怀孕的能力。 另一个非常重要的问题是询问潜在代孕妈妈的生育历史。她是否曾经怀过孕？她现在是否在抚养那个孩子？这两个问题的答案都应该是肯定的。代孕妈妈应该有怀孕的经验，以便她对再次怀孕感到舒适。她还应该表示她喜欢怀孕的感觉，并且没有经历过任何孕期并发症。询问她是否目前在抚养亲生孩子对许多意向父母来说很重要，这样他们可以了解她是否与亲生孩子有着强的关系，而不是将代孕作为与另一个孩子建立联系的一种方式。 第二个在潜在代孕妈妈的资格中扮演重要角色的因素是年龄。正如我们所知，年龄在谈论生育时是一个重要因素。科学建议的最佳怀孕年龄通常是在20多岁到30多岁之间。虽然在30多岁时生育能力会下降，但对于代孕妈妈来说，胚胎质量等因素可能更为重要。因此，大多数意向父母会寻找年龄在40岁以下的代孕妈妈。 其他需要注意的一般性因素包括身体健康的女性，最好体重指数（BMI）在30以下。肥胖的代孕妈妈生育能力较低，并且接受手术可能会有风险。她将接受由持牌医生进行的身体健康检查。意向父母还应询问她当前的经济状况。建议代孕妈妈有稳定的收入，并且没有依赖公共援助。依赖公共援助的代孕妈妈在收到代孕补偿后可能会失去资格，如果她继续使用公共福利，可能构成欺诈。代孕妈妈最好没有犯罪记录。作为过程的一部分，她将接受由持牌心理学家进行的心理健康筛查。潜在的代孕妈妈需要获得持牌心理学家的批准，确认她能够参与代孕过程。 请注意，这篇文章仅供参考，不构成法律建议，也不旨在建立律师与客户之间的关系。 Tsong Law Group, A.P.C. 562-274-7807 info@tsonglaw.com

在代孕过程中，获得法律批准是准父母和代母实际开始代孕医学过程之前的必要步骤。法律批准发生在所有各方签署代孕协议后。 代孕协议是代孕旅程中的重要部分，因为它记录了各方的意图并指导接下来一年左右代孕过程中的行动。这是一个涉及准父母、代母及其各自律师的合作过程。通常，准父母的律师最初起草合同，然后代母（及其配偶或伴侣，如适用）和她的律师会对合同进行审查，以确保代母的利益受到保护。之后，各方将继续进行谈判。在我们之前的文章中，我们讨论了Tsong Law Group执业的州（即加利福尼亚州、华盛顿州、伊利诺伊州、亚利桑那州和纽约州）代孕协议的法律要求。 为了帮助希望了解代孕协议内容的读者，在本文中，我们将概述以下基本主题：基本主题、财务和风险及责任。 基本框架 以下是每份代孕协议中应包含的一些典型条款： - 引言部分：包含各方的身份信息，包括准父母和代母。 - 目的和意图部分：在加利福尼亚州，该部分还应标明生殖细胞的来源，并声明谁将成为父母，谁将放弃其父母权利，以及所有人已向彼此提供了真实准确的信息。 - 医学程序描述：包括胚胎移植的详细说明以及选择执行过程的医生。 - 代母行为的禁令：可能包括禁止某些活动，如禁欲、活动限制、药物和酒精使用。 - 行为规范：要求代母遵循的规则，例如遵守医疗指示、旅行和活动限制。 讨论风险、责任、违约和协议终止的条款 虽然大多数代孕安排顺利进行，但每份代孕协议都需要考虑如何支付医疗费用；在出现分歧、违约时的处理方式；如何终止协议；以及责任豁免。这些是我们在代孕协议中常见的一些条款： - 终止妊娠的依据和程序：规定在何种情况下可以终止妊娠以及相关程序。 - 风险承担和一般免责：各方对风险的承担及一般免责条款。 - 准父母的医疗费用责任说明：解释准父母对医疗费用的责任以及对代母保险政策的审查结果（如有）。 - 代母的人寿保险及其法律后果：讨论为代母提供人寿保险的情况及其法律影响。 - 离婚、分居及准父母去世的处理：在这些情况下的处理方式。 - 协议的期限及各方如何以及何时可以终止协议：协议的有效期以及终止协议的方式和时机。 - 违约和/或争议解决条款：解决违约和争议的条款。 财务组成部分 最后但同样重要的是，除非代孕协议是出于无偿安排（即代母未获得补偿），否则必须包含一个关于财务的部分，重点应包括以下内容： - 补偿：虽然每个案件的付款方式有所不同，但通常包括以下几类补偿：     每月津贴：用于覆盖月度开支；     妊娠补偿：在代母怀孕期间通常按月支付的补偿；     药物开始费和胚胎移植费；     对于某些类型的侵入性手术、器官损失或剖腹产的费用。 - 旅行费用：如需旅行，哪些旅行费用将由谁支付。 - 工资损失：包括床休期间的工资损失长度及其他托儿和家务津贴。 - 托管或信托账户：讨论在代孕过程期间谁持有资金，代孕过程结束后托管或信托账户保持开放的时间，以及不同时间点的余额情况。 结论 Conclusion 代孕协议是代孕旅程中的一个关键步骤。尽管这可能不是最令人兴奋的部分，有些人可能会被诱惑去使用从他人那里或互联网上找到的合同，但在采取这种措施之前咨询法律顾问至关重要。大多数ART（辅助生殖技术）律师更愿意使用自己起草的合同，而不是处理客户在互联网上找到并未获得使用许可的合同。 Tsong Law Group 的律师已经起草和审查了数百份代孕协议，代表了准父母和代母。我们可以高效地代表您，并以易于理解的方式解释代孕协议。如需更多信息，请立即联系我们。

像寻找合适的机构一样，为你的代孕或卵子捐赠找到合适的律师可能会让人感到不知所措。有些人寻找律师的方式是找到价格最低的。我们不建议这种方法，因为选择律师需要研究和考虑价格以外的因素。对于代孕，一次成功的旅程通常需要一年或更长的时间。此外，确认准父母的亲子关系是最重要的部分之一。  同样重要的是了解为什么辅助生殖技术（ART）律师的收费会有所不同，以及律师之间的实际差异是什么。    I. 找到生育法律的专家  首先，并不是所有的律师都是该领域的专家。非专业律师可能会收取较低的费用，但这样的话事情可能会不按预想进行，而且你还可能会错失关键的专业知识。一位从事辅助生殖技术（ART）法律的律师应该参与多个组织，以跟踪ART法律领域的发展。我们Tsong Law Group也参与了许多这样的组织，例如美国律师协会ART委员会、美国生殖医学学会（ASRM）、SEEDS。Ralph Tsong也是收养和辅助生殖律师学院（AAAA）和加州收养和ART律师学院（ACAL）的ART成员。这些学院对入会有很高的标准。  Ralph Tsong作为AAAA成员，至少需要五年的执业经验，处理过50个ART或收养案件，并通过AAAA董事会的严格伦理审查。ACAL要求处理过100个ART案件，并获得全体会员的批准。Ralph Tsong还曾在许多这些组织的会议上发表过关于ART法律的演讲，包括美国律师协会、SEEDS和ACAL。    II. 找到有多年经验的律师  其次，我们需要看经验。经验来自多年的实践。Ralph Tsong已经从事律师工作25年，自1999年从芝加哥大学法学院（一所排名前3的法学院）毕业后，首次获得伊利诺伊州的执业资格。我们Tsong Law Group的业务遍及多个州，Ralph Tsong在加利福尼亚州、亚利桑那州和华盛顿州以及伊利诺伊州都获得了执业资格，他的副手在俄克拉荷马州和纽约州也有执业资格。  律师的收费较高是因为他们在该领域的多年经验。多个领域的多年经验也造就了多层次的业务。Ralph在劳动法方面的经验使他能够处理诸如带薪或无薪休假和工作保护等就业问题，审判经验意味着他在法庭上不会感到陌生。多年的经验还提供了与其他律师的联系，以应对其他法律需求。在许多司法管辖区处理过成千上万的案件的经验使Ralph能够领导Tsong律师事务所的团队。    III. 阅读评论和查看奖项  最后，查看在Google和Yelp等平台上的实际客户评论和反馈。评论可以提供先前客户对与某律师事务所合作的感受，这是研究过程中的重要部分，这样你就可以知道哪个选择是合适的。评论更多的律师事务所通常更有声誉和知名度。一个评论积极的律师事务所将使法律旅程易于理解且顺利。  Tsong律师事务所是生育法律领域评论最好的律师事务所之一，在各个平台上有超过75条五星级评论，而且数量还在不断增加。许多评论者特别告诉我们，他们会在下一次旅程中再次选择我们，而他们确实这样做了。我们从不缺乏积极的评论，因为客户满意度对我们来说非常重要。在客户的旅程中，我们重视与他们建立联系，在处理案件时提供可访问性、透明度和效率。  此外，还要查看律师的奖项和荣誉。Ralph在2023年和2024年被Thomson Reuter评选为超级律师，他的副手Rainie在同一时期被评为超级律师的明日之星。超级律师有一个选择过程，通过同行评估和12个专业成就指标来正式认可律师，只有5%的律师获得了这一荣誉。    结论：  选择代孕法律师是一个重要的决定，不应该只考虑成本。我们建议查看他们是不是该领域的认证专家，是否拥有合适的背景和经验，以及是否有客户的积极反馈和评论。请联系我们Tsong Law Group，进一步探讨这些考虑因素，并了解我们如何为你独特的旅程中成为你可信赖的向导。此外，准父母可以免费注册Seedcoach，获取他们的财务指导。

Released on May 21, 2024, The Bump by Sidney Karger follows the adventures of Wyatt Wallace and Biz Petterelli about five weeks before the expected due date of their surrogate. The New Yorkers decide to take a cross-country babymoon with their dog for their surrogate’s delivery in California for one last adventure and address relationship issues before parenthood. Along the way, unexpected detours open old wounds and secrets, challenging them to rethink the meaning of family as they prepare for their baby’s arrival. This novel shows some of the funny, reflective, and challenging moments a couple may have on their road to becoming a parent through egg donation and surrogacy.    We interviewed our former client Sidney Karger about his book:  Exclusive Interview with Sidney Karger:   #1) Can you describe your journey to becoming a published author?   S: “I had always wanted to be a writer when I was a little kid... When I was 12, I sat down and wrote a book which was a terrible version of Choose Your Own Adventure books. I got encouragement from friends and family to keep writing and then I fell in love with movies. Out of college I started writing screenplays and once I realized people actually write movies. I'm like, ‘I'll be a screenwriter.’ I started writing screenplays and reading them for studios and production companies. Then around after that time, I got a job as a writer director at Comedy Central and was sort of writing and directing for their shows in-house creatively. I became a working screenwriter and left Comedy Central. Sort of that old saying of preparation and opportunity equals luck, I was introduced to my now book agent...I've been collecting ideas through the years and always thought I would write a book, way later in life when I turned 80 or something...I pitched him some ideas and that was my last book that came out last year called Best Men  and it's a romantic comedy and I sold that as a two book deal.”     #2) How much research was involved in writing your book on surrogacy and egg donation? And how much was it was prior knowledge?   S: “My partner and I just started talking about surrogacy years ago and then some friends of ours started having babies that way and through adoption. We learned through osmosis what they were doing and there was a time when we started taking it seriously. As everyone knows, surrogacy and adoption are so complicated and overwhelming. There are so many ways you can collect that information. The book deals with the emotional aspects of whether you're having a baby the traditional way, through surrogacy, IVF, or adoption. I was taking notes from friends and even our parents. You can detect the differences between couples, like the disciplinarian one and the one who is a little more laid back.”    #3) The book portrays Wyatt with a type A personality and loves planning while his partner Biz is more laid back and goes with the flow. Who do you think you identify more with?   S: It interesting, I think I'm probably a little of both. I like to plan and be spontaneous and a little more laid back, but I can be indecisive. The characters are drawn out of people that I know, people I've met, or people I've eavesdropped on in a restaurant. There's a lot of stuff that I draw upon that I've experienced but then put into a different type of scenario with different characters so I can tap into the same emotion I felt. The characters become sort of like heightened versions of parts of my personality and people I know. I don't necessarily gravitate towards one of the other, they're both kind of close to my heart.     #4) Wyatt and Biz are experiencing a bump in the relationship and doubts of becoming parents. If you could have a conversation with them. What advice would you give them?   S: “I would wait until their journey is over and I would say, there's a big lack of communication between the two of them. I would encourage them to talk things out a little more and hash things out. They can figure out why one of them is this way and the other one was that way. Within the book, one starts out super organized and kind of wants to have an itinerary and the other ones afraid of having a baby and wants to play it a little looser. I don't want to give a spoiler away, but it changes in the end. My advice would be to communicate more...with age comes a little more wisdom. I would say to them don't make everything so dramatic and you'll get through this.”    #5) Wyatt and Biz have two very different families. What type of family do you personally envision for your future?   S: “Hopefully a little of both, I love that idea. I came from a big family, but my siblings were older. When they moved out of the house, I was kind of alone with my parents. I got the best of both worlds, and I would love that for my future family. Just the idea of having a big family but then the quiet time you can share. Everyone does their own thing and then you kind of come back together. I love that sort of spectrum of loud and quiet. You rebel against what you grew up with and want the opposite sometimes, but then you realize you want to get back to your roots. I think having that balance is good.”    #6) Without too many spoilers, what scene was the hardest for you to write?   S: “Generally the hardest scenes to write were in the car because I really wanted to make sure that you are with these characters along their “journey.” I wanted the reader to experience being in the car with them, but that could be boring. Those were the hardest scenes and I tapped into road trips that I've taken, long drives, listening to music, coming up with games, calling people on the phone on speaker. Trying to keep the story moving while they're in the car was really a challenge because again, I just wanted you to feel like you're on this road trip with them.   Legal and Realistic Aspects:    As usual for our reviews, we look into whether the story is realistic from a legal and factual standpoint.  Karger shares the process of Wyatt and Biz  selecting an egg donor  and over a year later, anticipating the birth of their child. The story opens with them going through many profiles of egg donors and reading their descriptions. This is very accurate for families who search for donors through agencies that have online profiles and descriptions of available donors. They compile a board of possible donors by considering their family history, biography, and interests. Wyatt and Biz spent over eight months trying to select a donor. After agreeing on an egg donor, they contact the agency to confirm if the donor is available.   Although the story does not follow the process of Wyatt and Biz selecting their surrogate, we are introduced to Flora when she FaceTimes them during their trip to give medical updates. Surrogacy contracts  will often disclose that the surrogate must contact the intended parents and provide updates of doctors visits and allow their attendance in person. These tend to be minimums and intended parents can have more contact than what is in the contract.  Flora does a great job of keeping in contact with the couple and forms a close bond with them. She shares continues to follow up with more calls throughout the novel.   Wyatt and Biz witness the birth of their child in the hospital room beside Flora. The hospital staff are aware of the surrogacy matter once they arrive at the hospital. They are quickly let into the delivery room, most likely because the hospital was given a hospital letter and the court judgment prior to the birth (also known as a PBO ). Before the birth of the child, your attorney should inform the surrogate’s hospital of choice of the matter and provide all the necessary paperwork so the intended parents can safely leave the hospital with their child and have their names on the birth certificate.  There are no legal hiccups or concerns in the novel, which indicates the legal part was well-handled.  Spoiler alert:   We learn of a second journey for Wyatt and Biz using the same egg donor and surrogate. This is a possibility for intended parents who want to embark on a second journey after their first successful one. Many intended parents with good experiences opt to use the same egg donor and surrogate because they wish to have a sibling journey, and already have a close bond from the first journey and know what to expect. We can only wonder if Wyatt and Biz used the same lawyers for their second journey.     Conclusion:  In conclusion, The Bump  by Sidney Karger is a breezy summer read that on a seldom explored topic of fiction, the journey to parenthood through surrogacy and egg donation, and how a couple processes their transition. Karger’s narrative is humorous but also deep, and the reader really feels dropped into the perspective of being on the edge of unknown when starting a family through third party reproduction.  We know the feeling is universal for new intended parents. If you choose the right lawyer, at least you won't have to worry about the legal aspects of your journey. If you need a lawyer for surrogacy and egg donation, contact us now.

Tsong Law Group knows that the journey to expanding your family through surrogacy and egg donation can be a stretch for the household budget of many people. That is why we are offering Seedcoach, a financial coaching package for free to our intended parents, or if they elect for their surrogates. There is no extra cost to use this benefit. In this article, we will discuss the main points of the program. What is Seedcoach The program was designed to help the intended parents and surrogates answer any questions they may have about the financial aspects of their journey. The question of finances is the elephant in the room for many pursuing surrogacy, so the team at Seedcoach combined with their online video library of resources and templates, will help intended parents identify the financial resources that can help on their journey. How does the program work If you sign up to be a client with Tsong Law Group and retain for us drafting of a contract, you are eligible for the services. The services for the Intended parents include: Online Video Library which offers invaluable guidance on budgeting, insurance, and funding your journey. It includes access to Including budgeting tools, customizable templates, a list of lenders and grants and more! Unlimited One-on-One Coaching with webinar support to help you navigate the financial complexities associated with your surrogacy journey. Assistance with Grants & Loans which will be assisted by your coach in sourcing opportunities to aid in closing any funding gaps by helping you write impactful grant applications and identifying the best borrowing opportunities. Fundraising & Special Events which will guide you on how to plan a successful fundraiser and coordinate special events for crowdfunding your journey. Lastly, Reduce Your Stress! Your Family Third party fertility journeys are complex and emotional. SeedCoach can minimize your stress by providing financial guidance along the way. Meanwhile, if you are a surrogate of intended parents with Tsong Law Group who opt to provide the benefit to their surrogate, the program will help you: Maximum Financial Benefit From Your Compensation which our experts will customize your financial program based on the compensation associated with the contract you entered into with your intended parent(s). Improve Your Financial Situation While Helping to Build a Family by the program’s free tools, budgeting templates and individual guidance on compensation, setting and achieving goals, household budgeting, reducing debt, as well as saving and investing. Achieve Your Financial Goals by helping you realize your financial goals that may be obtained from your earnings and the program will also advise you on the dangers they haveseen other surrogates fall into post-surrogacy. Lastly, you’ll Reduce Stress and Set Yourself on a Path to Financial Freedom! How to get started There are 3 easy steps to start your third-party journey with Tsong Law Group’s Seedcoach: Notify Tsong Law Group. Email or call Tsong Law Group and ask to enroll in the program. Our team will respond immediately and give instructions moving forward. Wait for a welcome email which includes your log in credentials/password. Your credentials will be used to login tsonglaw.fertilityfinancialguidance.com and access all the resources for your funding journey. Finally, complete the Intake form and schedule a one-on-one with a Coach. For more information, call us at 877-992-3678. This article is for informational purposes only and should not be relied upon without additional research or consulting an attorney. This article is not legal advice and does not create an attorney-client relationship with the reader.

At Tsong Law Group, we understand that families come in all shapes and sizes, and the journey to build a family can be as unique as the families themselves.  Families come in all shapes and sizes and ways of growing families can be equally unique. Non-traditional family building is a wonderful way to grow the joy and love in your family but it can come with additional stress, uncertainty, and expense. Many families turn to adoption to grow their families only to find out the financial hurdles are too great. Adoption costs can range from $30,000-$50,000 or more, depending on the type of adoption.   But the good news is that families aren’t alone in that struggle. Born through her personal experience in adoption and a drive to help other families, Kelly Ellison founded Your Adoption Finance Coach. This educational program comes alongside agencies, lawyers, and consultants to help support prospective parents in navigating the complex finances of adoption. Kelly, along with a team of coaches are passionate about helping all families solve the financial puzzle of adoption. Tsong Law Group has partnered with Your Adoption Finance Coach to provide this service for free to our hopeful adoptive parent clients, as well as offering its sister program, Seedcoach, to our intended parent clients. If you are interested in either program, just ask us.   Your Adoption Finance Coaching program works to solve the money problem for adoptive families.  The system offers resources ranging from on-demand videos and downloadable templates to one-on-one coaching calls to help prospective parents map out their budget and funding timeline - so they know not only how much they’ll need but when. This approach to budgeting helps families identify and plan for funding gaps for targeted and customized planning. The team at Your Adoption Finance Coach can help prospective parents find resources to help fill those gaps, from grants to loans to setting up a fundraising campaign. Coaches provide families with customized solutions based on their personal and family needs.   Listen to these testimonials about Your Adoption Finance Coach:  “The portal offered a great deal of helpful information. However, having a personal coach, a human being, I could talk to and bounce ideas off of helped me understand how the information from the portal applied to me and more importantly, put it to good use. My coach was readily available - I appreciated that I could both email her quick questions AND jump on the phone with her to talk through more complex inquiries; and I always had the portal there as a reference point with best practices, help and templates. The assistance I got from YAFC was invaluable. I fear there are prospective adoptive families out there who believe they make too much money or don’t need help – and so when offered the services of YAFC by their agency or attorney, they look the other way. I think this is a mistake. I would urge families to give YAFC the opportunity to ease the financial burden of your adoption journey; it will make both a short-term and long-term difference. Because of YAFC’s help, I was in a much better financial position when my teen and preteen sons came home than I would have been without utilizing their services. I am grateful.” Stephen, Santiago and Juan, Adoptive Family   “We found the adoption process thoroughly overwhelming (emotionally, logistically and financially) and quite honestly, weren't expecting much when we learned about Your Adoption Finance Coach (YAFC). We attended our first YAFC webinar and were pleasantly surprised. We then spoke with our coach to learn more about their services and how they could help us. Our experience with YAFC was incredible and they are absolutely the first name we mention when anyone tells us that they are planning to adopt. Our coach was informative and patient, guiding us expertly through each step of the gran application process; no matter how trivial the question. We cannot thank YAFC enough. Our adoption would have been very difficult without them.” Luke, Kim and Baby Lennox, Adoptive Family   “Having someone who knows the ins and outs of the application process, who has a relationship with many of the larger foundations, who could tell me which foundations made sense for us to apply to, and who could also help us make sure our application was both thorough and compelling – I don’t know how to quantify such a resource. In addition to helping us find funding to finalize our adoption, our YAFC coach no doubt saved me an unknown amount of time and energy so that I could concentrate what little time and energy I did have on bringing our daughter home and caring for her." YAFC Family, Adoptive Family     Conclusion  Your Adoption Finance Coach and Tsong Law Group stand ready to empower families on their adoption journey. Over the years, Your Adoption Finance Coach has assisted over 15,000 families in raising more than $15 million for their adoption journeys. Together, we firmly believe that financial constraints should not hinder anyone from embarking on the journey of adoption. At Tsong Law Group, we share this belief wholeheartedly. Our team of adoption lawyers is dedicated to ensuring that legal and financial barriers do not stand in the way of building your family through adoption.   If you're planning an adoption and need extra guidance with the financial and legal aspects, don't hesitate to reach out to contact us  or visit this site. There is no extra cost to use this benefit. For more information, you may visit this site.